Journal on pain, grief & healing

  • ABOUT MY JOURNAL
    On September 4, 2006 our son was born prematurely at 22 weeks 6 days. He didn't survive the delivery. We named him Nolan. This means ‘champion/ fighter’. The first week after his loss, we were in such a state of shock. We felt emotionally paralyzed. Friends and family call to ask how we are feeling. We say "fine" and "okay". But honestly? We don't even KNOW what we're feeling right now. The pain and emptiness is overwhelming. The emotions too raw to handle. The heaviness in my heart is aching in my whole body. Yet at other moments I feel so appreciative of what I DO have. A wonderful husband, a beautiful daughter, loving and supportive friends and family, freedom, the sunshine. I laugh, I cry and I try to pick up the pieces and move on. What else can I do? It has been such a traumatic experience. I feel the need to talk about it. Over and over again. But who can I keep bothering with my fear and tears, my anger, my confusion, my disbelieve, the jealousy, the disappointment, the hysteria in my head? I am not afraid to face this pain and emptiness. I know that there are lessons to be learned. I fear more that I'll move on too fast. That Nolan will be forgotten one day, that this profound experience in my life will be swept under the carpet soon. By others, or by myself! I don’t want the people around to feel uncomfortable with my grief. So I act strong. But I need to stay real. At least with myself. I NEED to write. So I won't lose my mind. So I won't forget the details. So I can track my progress toward healing. So YOU know how I am REALLY doing today if I say “fine”. And may be - one day – my journal can be of support to other women that have just lost their premature baby. Love and light, Jessica

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March 13, 2007

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Bri

Het is al ellendig genoeg allemaal. En dan "krijg" je dit er ook nog bij.
Bah! Maar gelukkig niks met het hartje!
Jessje hou je taai!! En geniet lekker van je massage vanmiddag.
xxx Bri xxx

Daph

Ik ken de paniek! Liep 's nachts over straat om maar weer rustig te worden. Sprak op straat vreemde mensen aan om maar m'n aandacht af te leiden van mijn hartslag en mijn ademhaling. Ik hoop dat je je weer goed voelt nu!

amy

hello over there in
Makoniky( how do you spell that?)
are you on a blogging break?
how are you?
xo
amy

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